If you are the smartest most motivated person in the room, you are in the wrong room.
You need to be in a room where you are “small”. In a room that challenges you, makes you uncomfortable and requires you to levelup just to stay at pace. If you haven’t come across this room, choose to be alone. Solitude is better than influence that doesn’t benefit you.
Grow in silence, the right people will gravitate towards you. “Your vibe attracts your tribe” sounds cliche but is SO REAL. If you are giving ‘negative and unmotivated’, you will attract negative and unmotivated people.
That part.
So where do you start? Right here right now. All we have is now, we think we have forever but forever is never defined. You don’t. Everything is temporary and can be snatched from you at any moment. Sorry those are facts.
Don’t leave this earth with that idea still inside your head. That business model you never made come to life. That thing you wanted to say. Write that book! Release the song. For the love of God START THE PODCAST! (-that was directed towards myself.)
Thanks for this Nike.
Make moves.
Surround yourself with people who lift you up, motivate you, inspire you to be way more than you have settled for to date. Surround yourself with people that truly “get you”. That’s all anyone wants, and they are out there. Until you know you have that, I can’t express this enough…. SPEND TIME ALONE!
Be authentically you, own it, and please.. never settle.
Staying aligned with your own energy, and letting people meet you there.
Choose to protect your peace today (and every day) before you allow the 🌎 to enter your space. This is non-negotiable!
Consider who you allow in your space in general. Your environment shapes your life more than you realize. 💯
The morning is where strength is built.
Real strength is built in difficult mornings & your routine will help you conquer them.
It is not just about doing things.
If you want to build your mind, start with your mornings. Reconnect with your purpose without any interruptions.
Motivation comes with self–discipline. 🔥
What you feed your mind early in the day sets its direction. Feed it truth, feed it wisdom, feed it information that strengthens you.
There is no excuse, wake up an hour or two before your earliest waking child. Way before work. Before the gym. Your days will become more clear and your life will follow, peace begins in the mind.
Your morning is the foundation of the outcome of your day. ☀️
If you don’t take control in the morning, the world will take control for you. You cannot build a strong life with chaotic mornings or old negativity.
Read, Write, Listen, Reflect. You cannot develop clarity when you start your morning with chaos. You must do this every morning, it is a promise to yourself that you refuse to live on auto pilot or survival mode.
The world is loud social media is loud. People are loud. Don’t immediately flood your mind.
Your thoughts shape your innervoice and your innervoice shapes your actions. When you wake up and speak life into yourself and remind it who is in control. Overtime this practice build self trust, mental discipline, and emotional stability which helps you stop reacting to circumstances and start leading yourself and others through them and that is how a strong mind is built, one morning at a time.
When haters see other people improving their life and becoming successful & happy, it’s a direct reflection of what they should be doing but aren’t. So, they try to spread negativity hoping that you will stop succeeding.. so they don’t have to look at themselves anymore. Needing to bring you down with them. Every day is going to be an inevitable battle with these kinds of people.
Be so strong in your values they can’t even touch your peace.
People will always have their opinion on you no matter how good or bad you’re doing. When you have peace within yourself & values, these people can’t even touch you. Arguing with them, or letting them bring you down would literally be a waste of your time and a gap in your routine. Always think this way, always own who you are & what you’ll accept, always protect your peace.
I hope someone takes something away from this because I had a Mom guilt moment & that’s okay.
I think in the midst of life parents can forget sometimes that children have voices too, that deserve to be heard. Not just pretend to listen to them & get back to the dishes or the phone, really hear them. Whether they are 2 or 9, they know what makes them comfortable & want you to know who they are as a person & what they need to be happy. If we don’t always consider their thoughts & feelings, even in stressful times, there will come a day they won’t share those things with us.
Today I vouge to slow down & always listen deeply to my kids even if it’s something that seems small at the moment or if it’s when i’m stressing everything on my plate. Even if I don’t agree, i’ll take the time to explain why & try to shed some knowledge.
Perfection is overrated & impossible. What is the perfect body, perfect parent, or perfect partner anyway?
Someone once compared the perfect example of perfection to Martha Stewart.
She’s loaded and attractive and very successful and can do anything.
They said she seems perfect because she can maintain a perfect home and make the perfect bed and build stuff with her bare hands but they also noted that she couldn’t maintain the perfect marriage and how her daughter wrote an entire book detailing how she was basically a shitty mom…..& went to jail. No judgement from me, but no one is perfect.
It’s very much theimperfection that makes things interesting. And it makes life liveable.
If everything was perfect, nothing would ever be fun.
What if no one ever tripped, if our kids never said anything extremely embarrassing, and if we never screwed up so badly that we had an awesome story to tell a year later?
We would never laugh or learn if people were perfect every day.
The need to be perfect burdens many people and coincidentally guarantees them unhappiness. They’ll never be satisfied.
People who seek perfection care too much what other people think. In fact, these are often made up judgements in their heads. Everyone has an opinion, but making someone else’s opinion the importance of your validation is really silly. After all, someone else can’t really judge you unless you give them the power of being a judge………
There is always room to learn & improve. Take power in the fact that you have not yet lived to your full potential because the world lays new opportunity at your feet daily.
You know that thing you keep putting off? Could be a small goal or large…or maybe you aren’t even putting it off, you are actually one of those people who talk about doing something every single day and never do the thing, so much so that a month has gone by and nothing has been done but you still believe it will get done and now it’s an even more extravagant plan or pile of laundry. Guilty? I can be too. Don’t get mad at me because I told you what I am here for! LEVELING UP. Lol. We are doing it together! “Oh I’d love to travel the world doing what I love” “I’d love to quit my 9-5 and do photography full time.” What percent of the world actually take their idea and passions and put it into play? Not many.
Even with small things just make the moves. I’ve learned when I want to get something done that I dont know anything about, to teach myself. Do you know how big the internet is? Or how many people are willing to help you but you always act like you’ve got it so no one offers. There are people on stand by with knowledge that you do not have, that are willing to help and share that knowledge with you. Ask. Ask for directions, Ask the internet, take criticism. Say YOU ARE RIGHT, now I can be better at this next time, THANK YOU. I didn’t know how to use a drill last month or a leaf blower and here I am assembling things and doing yard work HAHA. The world needs to be a more helpful place with more of a willingness to learn and an open mind. People are too worried about being better,smarter,faster etc. But the only reason those people are stronger,better & faster, is because they watched what others before them did to become like that and they made it a point to do those same things every day no matter what it took.
YOU CAN LITERALLY [CLICHE ALERT] BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE AND DO ANYTHING YOU WANT TO DO BUT 99% OF THE WORLD IS TOO LAZY TO GO ANY FURTHER THEN MEDIOCRE LIVING. THEY’D RATHER WORK FOR THE MAN AND COMPLAIN EVERY DAY THEN USE THIS ONE CHANCE AT LIFE THEY HAVE TO BE WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT.
I am choosing to be a part of the 1%…to do something hard and great and take the extra mile because that sets the example for my children to do the same for their children, so on and so forth. If everyone could live at their kindest, most open minded,full potential…the world would just be a better, happier and more powerful place.
TONIGHTS TAKE AWAY:
You are not getting any younger……………………………………………………..
It’s contagious. Stay away from people that have it & rid of it, if its you.
NO ONE LIKES A COMPLAINER.
Straight up. It causes anxiety and negative vibes for whoever has to listen to it, as well as the person doing the complaining. So either way you are doing yourself a favor by surrounding yourself with positive people who make moves towards the better, or being that person yourself. Complaining about a situation and doing nothing towards fixing it is called whining. Babies whine.
We may have to do a little self diagnosis today & that’s fine…or maybe it’s actually not you & it’s a person you’re around a lot. If you get in the habit of jumping straight to complaining and thinking everything negative you possibly can, you will always be miserable, you will always be complaining. People will feel your negativity & avoid you. I’m actually telling you to avoid anyone like this because you may not be strong enough to [not match their energy] which leads to you being miserable as well. Misery really does love company. It makes them feel better about being miserable if you are too.
There are people who wish for your life.
Remember when Kim K. lost her diamond earring in the ocean and Kourtney was like “Kim theres people that are dying.” I felt that. I was really complaining because my child spilt milk & there are people wishing they had milk to spill. I am not that person anymore & it is very hard for me to surround myself with these types of people,it is contagious. A messy house means a roof over my head & happy children, Dishes mean there was food to eat, so on and so forth. I want you to enforce positivity into your daily life. Instead of saying why is this happening to me? Say why is this happening for me and how can I use it towards my improvement or the improvement of my life. What can I do to improve the situation? That shows strength,optimism & leadership.
Sounds harsh,but true. I’m not here to make you feel all warm & fuzzy inside. I’m here to make you realize the things I had to hear & still have to remember daily.
What energy are you bringing with you into the rooms you walk in?
What enlightenment or positivity are you bringing to the conversations you’re having?
Are you making people smile,laugh,teaching them anything?
What purpose does each day have for you & why do you wake up in the morning?
WHAT WILL THEY REMEMBER YOU FOR?
I really want you to think about this mostly because we are all only here for a short amount of time & I wonder why you’d waste even one day being mediocre…or worse….a problem in someone elses life. NUMBER ONE: Find your purpose,passion & main goals. NUMBER TWO: Each day, follow your daily routine that you created in my first blog post so you are guaranteed to reach those goals & this way of life you really want. NUMBER THREE: No matter how you feel, focus only on the positive things in your routine that push you forward, and let no one or no single thing stop you or bring you to a place that distracts you or brings negativity anywhere near your mind. Bring only positivity & love to those around you & that’s exactly what you’ll get in return. it’s written in the stars.
Negativity Snowballs.
Ever heard of the snowball effect ? It’s ‘a situation in which one action or event causes many other similar actions or events‘
It’s a real thing. If you wake up in the morning & are immediately pissed off that you have to wake up, then every other little thing is also going to piss you off. Guaranteed. If you start to think positive & refuse to let little things bother you, nothing will bother you. If it does, you’ll know exactly how to deal with it & move on to better things because your life has no space for it. The big things will seem really big & positive because you’re so full of gratitude for even the little things…& the hiccups that help you improve and put you where you are supposed to be in life right now. Like Lord Almighty there are people starving & you are crying & worried about your toothpaste falling on the floor this morning. (ROLLING MY EYES)
DON’T SETTLE.
For anything…. your job, your home, your attitude, your relationship. Don’t settle for “This is just the way I am because this is what I went through as a child..This is what I was taught,it’s all I know” Thats straight Bullsh*t in my eyes. You should be taking those traumas & experiences and turning them into strength…into knowledge. Into a reason to become great and show others where you came from and how hard you worked to get where you are now. I truly believe I wouldn’t be who I am today without each & every moment I was… who I wasn’t…Does that make sense? You learn who and what you want to be by being the opposite & growing up or meeting terrible people you never want to be like. No “This is the type of person I deserve to be with because of the type of person I have been in the past.” Be better,get better, work together to build a relationship built on open arms, trust, understanding & forgiveness. Forget the past,it’s gone…honestly keep your purpose & your goals but forget the future too…it isn’t here yet. Focus on right now and what you need to do to bring value to your life and do it. Don’t work your 9-5 if you dread going to it. Find something you love to do & can enjoy, while working for where you really want to be,doing what you really want to be doing. There is so much opportunity right in front of your face. You don’t have to be miserable. The world is literally huge, so is the internet. Stop making excuses.
TAKE AWAY:
BRING VALUE TO YOUR LIFE & THE LIVES OF OTHERS & YOU’LL RECEIVE NOTHING BUT GOOD.
Hope you are having a great Tuesday.
If you have not checked out my first post, please do. It’s an exercise that is guaranteed to put you on the path towards the success & happiness you really want.
Dedicating this one to 2 of my good friends that check on me daily & never fail to show me that good people do exist. 2 people that have good qualities that i’ve picked up myself on my journey to becoming a better friend & person. Thank-you Chloe & Natalia!
IT STARTS WITH YOU.
Theres a reason i’m so big on NOT matching energy & just always maintaining yours and it’s because of the simple fact that if you match energy & act disrespectful because you feel like you were disrespected, you are the same as this person and nothing gets solved. The world has become a huge competition of who has more & who is better. Who is right & who is wrong. An argument takes two, If there is ONE person who has this mindset, there is no argument. Stop worrying about how others are acting entirely. If you maintain your positivity (even when mad) & willingness to give, & be patient with others, & have a willingness to LEARN other people, (No one is you, so stop thinking they are.) then you have the power to create more giving,loving human beings in the people around you. OR simply just keep negativity out of your life. Both wins.
I’m not asking you to TRY to change anyone around you at all. I know this is confusing. Okay let me break it down for you. If people really care about you, & you treat them right every day, your love & gratitude will rub off on them & they’ll want to be just like that. They’ll want to treat you right. They’ll wonder how you’re always so at peace & nothing can really bring you down. Why doesn’t he/she argue back? Why is he/she so happy & secure within him/herself she doesnt have to win? BECAUSE YOU ALREADY WIN! You have peace that a lot of people want and will never have. BASICALLY START TO GIVE MORE OF AN F ABOUT OTHERS THAN YOU DO YOURSELF & MORE ABOUT GIVING THAN RECEIVING, YOUR LIFE WILL NATURALLY BECOME BETTER. (you’ll get more out of it,fact.) This is not to be confused with being a nice person & letting people walk all over you, if your energy and positivity does not help change a situation, that person or situation need to go. Point Blank. The right people will gravitate towards you if you are consistently a good person. Protecting your peace is important, it starts with being a peaceful person, and ends with only keeping peaceful people around you.
“IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY…..”
YOU ALL KNOW WHAT MOM SAID.
Peace of mind is better than being right.
Don’t use this concept “You get what you give” TO HURT others. Use it only on YOUR personal growth. Don’t go around treating people like crap & using the excuse “Well,You get what you give.” No, that makes for more crappy people. More so use it towards how YOU treat others daily. EVERY DAY remind yourself “I will receive the energy I put out today.” Have you ever had someone get upset with you for something in your mind could be the dumbest thing in the world, you may even disagree, BUT you just said you know what, I’m sorry I made you feel that way or not respond at all and just let it go? Did that person continue with screaming and was there a continued argument? Many insults thrown back and forth? Probably not. In the heat of the moment, words can be said & things can be done that could never be forgotten or forgiven “because you were mad,” In that moment, your relationship with that person, or if it was a stranger, your PEACE, should more important than being right. Once you let go the strong urge we all have to be right,win arguments & hurt others more than they can hurt you, you become a happier more peaceful person all around. Nothing can phase you. You walk away feeling fine from basically every altercation with anyone because of the fact alone that you don’t need to argue,hurt or receive any validation to feel content with yourself.. I can’t express to you enough how sometimes, actually MOST OF THE TIME, IT’S JUST NOT WORTH IT. There will always be not so intelligent people, there will always be a**holes, & there will ALWAYS be situations that test this very theory on humans every single day. Even from the people you are closest to.
TAKEAWAY:
IF WE AS ADULTS ALL START TO CARE MORE ABOUT OUR COMMUNITIES,WORK PLACES & EVEN OUR HOMES BEING SAFE HAVENS & PEACEFUL PLACES RATHER THAN, BEING RIGHT, OR WINNING ARGUMENTS… OUR CHILDREN WILL TAKE THESE CONCEPTS TO SCHOOL. MORE FRIENDS WILL BE MADE, LESS BULLIES. BETTER ADULTS.
BE THE ONE THAT PROVIDES THE PEACE.
BE THE ONE THAT WAVES AND SMILES AT PEOPLE AND TELLS THEM TO HAVE A GREAT DAY.
BE SO ANNOYINGLY AT PEACE THAT NO ONE CAN DEFEAT YOU BECAUSE OF THE GOOD ENERGY YOU CARRY WITH YOU EVERY DAY. THE SIMPLE FACT THAT YOU’RE NOT A JERK WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH AN EASIER LIFE & BETTER PEOPLE AROUND YOU.
MISERY LOVES COMPANY. THE PEOPLE WHO FUEL OFF OF NEGATIVITY WILL START DROPPING LIKE FLIES BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVIDE THEM.
IN RESULT, EVERY DAY IS GOOD FOR YOU, BECAUSE YOU HAVE LESS TO DEAL WITH. SIMPLE.
TODAY THANK YOUR FAMILY & PAST TEACHERS,COACHES & PREACHERS FOR REPEATING THEMSELVES COUNTLESS AMOUNTS OF TIMES DAILY TO TRY AND INSTILL THESE CONCEPTS IN YOUR BRAIN THAT YOU NEVER REALLY GOT UNTIL YOU WERE ABOUT 30 YEARS OLD. LOL…. (if you are still riding out your youth, I strongly suggest taking in what I say & making your life easier today. XOXOXO
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